Many friends of mine are well aware of Oklahoma people and their way of friendship. I love the way people from that part of the country make you feel. Knowing quick friendships are near impossible for me, I am researching ways to make real friends. An article I recently read suggested to make a list of three qualities that you would value in a friend. Here are my three:
- Fun and funny. I love a good sense of humor.
- Patient. They will need a lot of patience when communicating with me.
- Love the outdoors. I feel so calm and myself while in nature.
The article then asked you to list what three qualities YOU bring to the friendship. I find this part most challenging. I am humbled to think of how little I am offering in the way of friendship. I will still try:
- I can be funny or so I am told.
- I am knowledgble of many languages and book knowledge. I can be handy when playing trivia games.
- Kind. I am kind in my words and with my affections.
I can see these things I bring to the table are frequently interests of my own. I see now that what I want, must be similar to what I am offering in return. I am working to make my list more substantial.
My mom once had my Dad and I write down three things we wanted from each other and were not getting. Then after we had compiled our list, she proceeded to instruct us to give those very things we wrote to the other person. You can imagine my surprise when I then had to find honor, respect, and patience on my list of things to express to my Dad. It did seem to help with our view of one another considering our list were almost identical.
I am humbled when I reflect on the friends I have on this blog. I expected so much less and I am grateful. Friendships are much like your favorite foods. You love them, knowing they will always satisfy you and always look forward to seeing them appear again. But variety is always a pleasure. I once was on an eight day rotation diet and although I missed some of my favorite foods, it forced me to try others, which I surprisingly found satisfying and healthy. Maybe we should all try a rotation friendship diet. See how many new different friends we can make and see if we do not enjoy this variety of personalities. It may make us appreciate our “pasta and pesto” friends a little more while we get to try a little borscht.